It was a fine afternoon when my friend asking me an update of job interview I had, I shrugged say “I didn’t get the job.”
“Oh my, so sorry to hear that! But you’re so chill about it. Must be not a good job offer ya?”
I smiled. It was weird, to comfort ourself we choose to degrading something os someone that reject us.
“You also so chill when a guy you like didn’t like you back. Woman, how can you be chill on everything about all these rejection?!” she continues.
It took time for me, obviously, to learn to accept rejection, I try to look at it as not gaining something rather than losing something. I have exactly everything I had before getting rejected, except maybe I learned a lesson. I just didn’t get whatever I was after, but it’s not something I had anyway, so no use stressing about it. I’m no worse of than I was when I started.
For me, rejection is a favor. For relationship, hearing “No” frees me to move on, it’s the “Maybe” that leaves me stuck in limbo, and it’s worse. Time has, for whatever reason, exposed that the relationship is not meant to be. Remember, it’s not the other person’s fault they don’t have the same feelings. Nobody’s in the wrong so just move on.
Sometimes rejection doesn’t mean “Never,” just “Not right now.” For example, for job rejection, it somehow lets me know that I still have some learning and growing and improving to do, and I can try again later when I’m really ready. Or, maybe they weren’t the right fit for me and I should find somewhere else.
I know it’s easier than done, but once you understand that rejection was normal and you’ll face one or maybe hundreds in your life, it’s get easier to manage. You can shrug it off and then, move on.